The 5 Types of People You Should Marry

“Did you receive confirmation when you met your husband?”

I had just finished up speaking to a group of singles in their twenties and thirties, when a young woman came up to me with this question.

For a moment, my mind blanked as I tried to figure out what she meant. Was she talking about confirmation like with my airline tickets? Or maybe that class Catholic kids take?
And then it dawned on me: She meant “confirmation” from God. As in: “Did God give you some sort of a sign when you met your husband that he was the one you were going to marry?”

“No, actually,” I said.

She looked surprised. So I quickly explained.
When I met my husband for the first time, I had no clue he would be my husband. There was no spotlight shining down on him, no writing in the sky—not even that ‘gut feeling.’ But what God did do was give me a sort of ‘confirmation’ every step of our relationship. The more I got to know John, the more we grew in our relationship, the more I got to see his traits and characteristics, and the clearer it was that he was the kind of person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.

When it comes to relationships, so many people are waiting for that magical moment. But whether or not that magical moment even exists, it can’t be trusted, because it’s not “confirmation”—it’s feelings.
What is confirmation is moving into a relationship baby step by baby step, looking for the evidence of health, maturity and compatibility each step of the way.
As I got to know my husband, I realized he was “the one” I wanted to marry, because he possessed the qualities of the five types of people I need in my life:

A Friend
One of the most important ingredients in a healthy relationship is friendship. I wanted to marry someone I enjoyed spending time with and felt comfortable around.

There is nothing more special than being married to someone with whom you can laugh, cry, talk, play and simply enjoy each other’s company. And because so much of marriage is made up of ordinary moments like grocery shopping, managing money, and cleaning–who better to do those things with than your very best friend.

A Helper
When you think of choosing someone to marry, your mind doesn’t automatically go to changing diapers, cleaning bathrooms and folding laundry. But maybe it should.
The funny thing about marriage is that, in a way, you’re marrying a “co-worker” in that you’re choosing someone who can walk by your side in the daily “work” that life brings your way.

I could tell my husband was going to be a great “helper” from the moment we met. All through our dating relationship, he was always there to give me a hand with anything I needed, from moving out of my apartment, to fixing my car, to helping me load the dishwasher after small group was over and the plates had piled up.

God calls us to serve one another, and especially within the context of a marriage (Genesis 2:18). But the thing about being a servant is it’s not necessarily about what you are doing, it’s about the attitude you have while doing it.
Marry a helper, someone who you can serve and love wholeheartedly, knowing that they will also serve and love you in return.

A Prayer Partner
I knew John would make a great prayer partner one day, because he was a man of prayer while standing alone. We made it a point not to pray together early on in our relationship, but we always prayed for one another. I was certain that I was being lifted up in prayer, and we supported each other in this way during our time of friendship and dating.

Now that we’re married, our prayer life is one of the most intimate parts of our marriage. We can come together, bearing our heart and soul before Jesus with all vulnerability, and we can do it hand in hand and heart to heart. There is great power in prayer, and there is no greater blessing than being married to a prayer partner who will fight for you on their knees when times get tough.

A Supporter
About four months after I met John, he was accepted into a medical school program in a state halfway across the country. It was right around the time our friendship was moving into a dating relationship, and a friend of mine (who had just broken up with her med-school boyfriend) said to me: “Don’t ever date a med student, because life will always be about them and their career.”
Talk about a serious warning. But one thing I know is that a person’s priorities have very little to do with their career, and everything to do with their heart.

Step by step in our relationship, I saw a man who was just as interested in what I was doing as what he was doing, a man who valued my life and calling and took my needs into consideration to the best of his ability. Even though our relationship has required us to move all around the country following his career, he has always kept my needs his No. 1 priority, doing everything in his power to invest in our relationship, but also to invest in me.
The 5 Types of People You Should Marry The 5 Types of People You Should Marry Reviewed by Nene Sochi-Okereke on Monday, 24 April 2017 Rating: 5

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